Morning Time On The Farm

Good Morning

Another long day for me, and I am feeling super slow today.. Gotta start with bottle feeding a few babies, then issuing any shots before I feed up the livestock.

Maybe I’ll have time for laundry before I have to start tonights supper… Lawd help me…

Yesssss!!! This is what makes us “rednecks” excited!!!

Tennessee Farm’s Fall Festival Includes Charlie Daniels-Themed Corn Maze

Lyon Family Farms in Taft, Tenn. celebrated the late Country Music Hall of Fame inductee Charlie Daniels with an intricate and massive corn maze bearing Daniels’ likeness.

Members of the Charlie Daniels Band and its support team recently visited the farm and maneuvered a maze shaped like the music legend. Their post about visiting Lyon Family Farms began with a reference to another Field of Dreams.

Daniels died on July 7 following a hemorrhagic stroke. He went from the bass player for Bob Dylan and Leonard Cohen to the singer-songwriter whose credits include crossover hit “The Devil Went Down to Georgia.”

His Twitter and Instagram accounts and Facebook page remain active thanks to TeamCDB, with Charlie Daniels Jr. taking over his dad’s soapbox column. Posts still reflect the elder Daniels’ values, namely his unwavering support of the United States military. Junior’s best columns so far include a reflection on his father’s many friends in the Southern rock community.

Per its website, Lyon Family Farms is “the farm attraction of the Tennessee Valley.” Its annual Fall Festival began last month (Sept. 18, to be exact). It runs through Oct. 31 and features the area’s largest pumpkin patch. Other attractions include a petting zoo, pig races, duck races, tractor rides and a corn pit.

In addition, visitors can pick their own pumpkins, with all pumpkins costing $5 each no matter how big or small.

For more on Daniels, check out John and Robin Berry’s new podcast, Faith, Family & Friends. One of the earliest episodes features Daniels’ final interview.

And if you’re looking for a country music-themed corn maze closer to Nashville, check out Honeysuckle Hill Farm in Springfield’s maze, which is in the shape of the ACM’s reigning co-entertainer of the year, Thomas Rhett.

Now Watch: 10 Things You Didn’t Know About Johnny Cash

Caramel Stuffed Apples

  • Six large apples of your choosing
  • 1 large bag of your favorite soft caramel candies
  • melted butter
  • cinnamon sugar
  • water
  • chopped nuts, sprinkles, chocolate syrup, crushed candies, or any other of your favorite toppings

We know, we know, that’s a real rough list of ingredients to come up with, but we somehow think you’ll manage.

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Step 1- Slice and scoop

The first thing you’ll want to do is preheat your oven to 375℉. Then, cut the apples in half and use a spoon or an ice cream scoop to remove the core and the seeds.

Step 2- Brush and bake

Lay each half of your cored apples into the cavities on a muffin tin. Brush them with melted butter and sprinkle generously with the cinnamon-sugar mix. Next, pour just a small amount of water in each of the apples and bake for 20 minutes.

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Step 3- The fill

After you’ve removed your baked apples from the oven, fill each cavity with caramel. Now, you can go one of several ways here.

As we mentioned, you can always melt caramel candies over a stovetop in a double boiler or over very low heat. You can also go the super fancy route and make your own caramel sauce from scratch.

If you’re like us, though, and want to cut out the middleman as much as possible, you can take this tip from the folks over at Delish and just pop a few of the caramel candies right into the apples.

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Step 4- Second bake

Bake the caramel stuffed apples once more for about 10 minutes or until the caramel is completely melted.

Then, you can drizzle them with chocolate, extra caramel, or whatever you fancy. Top it off in the same way and voila! Caramel apples sans mess!

How To Feel Young….

1. Change your routine

If you usually get up at 8am, have breakfast while reading the news, then go for a walk to the shops, do it differently for a week. For example, instead, get up at 7.30am, walk to the nearest café and have breakfast there instead. By changing your routine in this way you’ll expose yourself to new activities and people, and keep things feeling fresh and new.

2. Refresh your look with a haircut

Get a haircut, shave the beard or mustache, or go to get a make-up makeover at a department store. If that’s not doable, try dying your hair at home, using curling tongues or curlers for a new look, or simply try different make-up or clothes.

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3. Discover somewhere new and make yourself feel young again

It needn’t be an expensive worldwide cruise, even a simple train or bus journey to a British town you’ve never been to before is enough to open your eyes and make you feel young again. Spend time exploring on your own or with friends, visit a museum or art gallery, browse the shops, and enjoy a meal or coffee while you’re there.

4. Go down memory lane to rediscover your youth

Looking back on your life needn’t make you feel old, quite the reverse in fact, when you realise how easily you can slip back into your teenage mindset by listening to music from that time, or looking at photos.  

5. Go back to school or university

It’s never to late to learn to do something new. Plumbing, watercolour painting, a new language – sign up for a class to discover your hidden talents. Even if you’re no good at it, you’ll enjoy the learning experience.

6. Spend some time with the kids

Spending time with children is a great way to feel young again as you can’t help but laugh along with them. You can offer to read to children at your local library or church, have your grandchildren over for an afternoon or take them to the park.

7. Enjoy a fairground ride

If you can stomach the rollercoaster, go for it, but if not, try going on the carousel or at least the ghost train. Getting scared and then experiencing relief helps release endorphins, which’ll make you feel young.  

8. Spend a day at the seaside

There’s nothing like paddling in the sea, eating an ice cream as you stroll along the prom, and even getting the sand out of between your toes, to rekindle childhood memories and recapture the feeling of just being a kid again.

9. Look for volunteering opportunities

Giving up your own time for someone else makes you feel younger because it shows you how much you still have to give to the world. Go to timebank.org to find all kinds of volunteering opportunities.

5 top ways to volunteer in retirement

10. Listen to some fast music

Research shows that music set to a fast beat gets our hearts beating faster as well as releasing endorphins. It needn’t be modern music either – there’s plenty of classical music set to a fast beat (think of any chase scene in classic old films, for example), as well as more recent pop music.

Narcissists!!!

How Narcissists Feed on Your Vulnerabilities

Being vulnerable is important, but occasionally it can be a risk.

Posted Sep 28, 2020

Narcissism is insidious. It eats into self-worth, harms its victims, and extracts what’s positive about relationships while leaving behind an empty husk. The world is consistently seeking out information on what creates a narcissist, how to spot them, and how to end relationships with them. But do we really understand how insidious and charmingly dangerous these relationships can be?

Narcissists thrive on exhorting others’ vulnerabilities. It is both their “love” language and their victory speech. If you are in any kind of relationship with a narcissist — and although most people think of narcissism as pertaining only to romantic relationships, it can spill into other domains as well — brace yourself to fight battles regarding your vulnerabilities.

Narcissistic Insight

We know that, on the surface, narcissists view relationships as a means to an end — people are to be used, and meaningful connections with others are fairly non-existent. There are numerous anecdotal, as well as research-based, reports detailing the various signs of when you could be engaging with a narcissist. The problem is how challenging it is to objectively quantify something as subjective as a relational interaction with another human.

It may surprise people to know that in some studies, narcissists have demonstrated basic insight into how others view them and their own narcissistic traits. They have been able to recognize that as relationships progress, other people often start to increase their negative views of them and do not assess them as positively as they do themselves. Much of the time, however, this insight about their own behaviors and others’ perceptions of those behaviors ends there.

While narcissists are not experts at understanding the true nature of how others view them, they are professionals at scanning, assessing, and categorizing other people into the different ways they can be used. Don’t kid yourself into thinking that in the beginning, everything was different until the stress got to them — narcissists start out relationships gauging what benefit they will get from them. When relationships are deemed as being too costly for the rewards, they typically find ways to end them. 

Relationships are the basis of human interaction and necessary in some form for nearly everyone to reach optimum health and well-being. Humans are social creatures; from extroverts to introverts, we all desire some type of connection with others. Although this is a great strength for us in many ways, when it comes to narcissists it can easily transform into a vulnerability. Narcissists quickly sniff out your desire for connection and tend to innately recognize the individuals who will be easier to manipulate or use in some way than others.

THE BASICS

Narcissistic Grooming

It is flattering to be the center of a narcissist’s attention in the beginning. Initially, they are attentive, dependable, superficially considerate, and eager to please. Many people find it gratifying to be told they are the only one who understands, they are special and unique from others, they have always deserved better, or they are the answer that someone has been seeking for a long time.

Vulnerability comes into play immediately when you start to interact with a narcissist. From the first few moments, they are working overtime to gain an understanding of where you are most vulnerable. They will instantly distinguish your loneliness, your lack of financial resources, your low self-esteem, and your anxiety. They’ll insert themselves into this area of your life to become indispensable. Once they have gained your trust, the expectation of payback starts to be made clear.

Narcissistic Demands

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The subjective nature of narcissism is part of what makes it so difficult to contain. It seems effortless for narcissists to exert their demands onto others in murky ways that are challenging when trying to quantify what is really happening. Shouldn’t you always give them what they want because that’s what you do for someone you love? Shouldn’t you be willing to sacrifice your own desires to make them happy, especially after all they have done for you? Is it really too much to ask that you put their needs first when you have received so much?

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Narcissists are usually careful to cover their tracks when exerting demands. Most of the time, their entreaties are couched in reminders of the ways they have helped you, how you have victimized them, and what you owe them. This method of getting needs met by others effectively shuts down protests when those requests become outlandish — really, aren’t they just asking you to give back a little.

This is the danger of narcissism. By the time most people realize what they have truly gotten into, they are in too deep to escape unscathed. They have accepted help in areas of vulnerability, they have shown interest, they have even gone so far as to extend trust — all deadly moves when a narcissist is on the hunt. 

Narcissistic Escape

There is no true way to win a battle with a narcissist. The best way to break free is to not play — drop the rope, walk away, and disengage. If the situation is impossible to escape altogether, turn your attention to strengthening your areas of vulnerability instead. Give yourself time to build up self-esteem, become more independent in achievable steps, and build social support outside of the narcissistic relationship.

The decimation of narcissism crosses all barriers and impacts all levels of relationships, increasing exponentially the more involved each relationship becomes. For individuals who have maintained long term relationships with narcissists, the damage typically causes lifelong scarring. Trust becomes an elusive concept, built on shaky foundations from the past that led only to pain. The paranoiaof others’ motives is all too common, formed as a self-protective measure to guard against being used and hurt. The danger of narcissism prowls treacherously in its ability to alter the future long after the battle is over.

Yummy Green beans With Pizazz!!!

HOW TO COOK BACON, MUSHROOMS, AND GREEN BEANS

If cooking with fresh green beans,bring enough water to a boil to cover green beans in a large pot. Cook for 5-7 minutes and strain water.

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If cooking with canned green beans,they are already pressure cooked from the canning process and simply need heated up.

Drain the cans, add the green beans to a pot and warm them up over a medium-high heat. Once heated through, turn the heat down to a low setting to keep warm.

Meanwhile, in a large pan cook bacon until crispy, about 10 minutes, flipping halfway for even cooking. Remove with a slotted spoon.

Leave about 2 tablespoon of bacon drippings left in the pan or wipe the pan clean and use 2 tablespoons of butter or olive oil.

Add mushrooms and cook for 6 minutes. Stir in minced garlic and cook for 1 additional minute.https://bc4affc6fa11ead52b33c89e6427760a.safeframe.googlesyndication.com/safeframe/1-0-37/html/container.html

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Add bacon and green beans back to the pan. Season with salt and pepper to taste and stir.

Bacon, Mushrooms, and Green Beans

Lending A Helping Hand

With the times of distress, it has made me more of a down to earth person and help me to put myself in other peoples shoes. I feel like I have always been one to be compassionate for others and give love and support, even to those I don’t know.

But, yesterday, I met a man who just tugged at my heart strings a little more than usual.

He was sitting by the car wash, knees bent, head in his hand, dog by his side.

I smiled as we passed by and I couldn’t help but notice how alone he seemed to be. I watched him get on his feet and grab a back pack and swing it over one shoulder as he grabbed his leash for the dog and began on his way.

I went ahead with my day, still thinking about the man and his dog, as I ate lunch with my fiance. We talked about the man and wondered what may have happened for him to be in such a predicament. Both of us knowing that it really isn’t any of our business what he has been through.

After we finished our meals, we decided to drive through Checkers drive thru and grab an extra meal, just in case we seen this man again.

As we drove through the parking lot that he was last spotted, I was overcome with excitement as I seen wagging tail of the dog up ahead. My mouth smiled, my heart fluttered and my tummy even got butterflies.

We pulled up next to the man, and I excitedly said “Hello” (you have to know my personality, there is no calm in me) He looked over and said hi and I blatantly asked “are ya’ll hungry”… And to my surprise, he said “extremely”…..

You should have seen my smile then, as I said ” I got u” and handed his a loaded cheese burger, seasoned french fries and an ice cold soda..

My fiance asked if he stays around here and the man points over to the wooded area and said ” yeah, I camp out in the woods”…. My heart broke.. My smile faded.. My tummy knotted..

He then proceeded to tell me he was “heading home” to read the book he has… ( this made me even more sad) He called the woods his home…

My heart wanted to bring this man and his dog to the camper I have on my property so I knew he had a safe place to call home, but my mind knew better..

I haven’t stopped thinking about this man since I met him. Something was different about him. He wasn’t begging for help, he wasn’t collecting change on the ground. He was just bottling up his pride and doing what he needed to do to survive, even if it meant being alone..

I will probably never see this man or his dog again, but I did rest a lil better last night, knowing he and his best friend had a full belly. He will never know the impact he had on me either, but I would do it all over again in a heart beat..

How To Have A Great Day

1Creating a Morning Ritual

  1. 1Wake up to soothing sounds. No one likes getting out of bed. It may even be the hardest part of your day. Playing soothing and cheerful music, such as birds chirping, instead of a blaring alarm can help you wake up in a calm and relaxed manner.[2]
    • Set your alarm time based on what time you need to get to school or work. You’ll also need to figure in your morning routine. For example, if you have to be at school or work at 7:30 and it takes you an ½ hour to get ready and a ½ hour to commute, you need to wake up no later than 6:30am. Try to have a cushion of 15 minutes in the event you want a few minutes to snooze or run late.[3]
    • Avoid listening to any loud, jarring or banging music when you wake up.[4]
  2. 2Get out of bed in a leisurely manner. Instead of hopping right out of bed, give yourself a few minutes to open your eyes and let them get used to the light. Then gradually work yourself into getting out of your comfy bed to start a good day.
    • Take a few minutes to cuddle with your partner or your kids before getting up.[5] A good hug or cuddle is a great way to protect against stress.[6]
    • Stretch lightly or do some yoga to get your blood flowing.[7] You could also take a few deep breaths by inhaling through your nose and exhaling from your mouth to further relax you.[8]
    • Sit up and put your feet on the floor. Then stand up and do a couple more stretches if you want. Use the bathroom if you need to.
  3. 3Eat breakfast every day. There is a reason that people continue to use the phrase “breakfast is the most important meal of the day.” A healthy and nutrient-rich breakfast provides the energy and nutrients you need to get through the day. It also minimizes your risk of a mid-morning slump or low blood sugar that may cause you stress or make you cranky.
    • Choose 2-4 foods as a part of your breakfast. Include at least one item from the following groups: bread and grains, dairy, and fruits or vegetables. For example, you could have a slice of whole wheat toast with avocado, a cup of low fat Greek yogurt with berries, and a cup of coffee for breakfast. Another great breakfast would be a whole grain bagel with a piece of turkey sausage and/ or melted cheese, a cup of fresh berries with banana, and a glass of milk. Putting a small amount of sugar in your coffee or having a small glass of orange juice may also help your memory throughout the day.[9]
    • Set your coffee maker the night before so that you can wake up to the smell of good coffee. It can be like a fishhook to get you out of bed.[10]
    • Consider setting out what you need for breakfast at night to streamline your morning routine. Stock portable options in your kitchen like breakfast bars and fruit in case you’re running late.
  4. 4Take a shower to invigorate your day. Let yourself take a short, warm shower either before or after your breakfast. A shower can refresh and rejuvenate you after a night of sleeping, and maybe a little sweating.[11]
    • Consider just rinsing yourself off if you took a shower the night before. Only shower in warm water that is between 36 and 40 degrees Celcius (or 95 to 105 degrees Fahrenheit).[12] Use a thermometer or stick your hand and foot in the water stream for a second to check the temperature.
    • Alternate the temperature between hot and cold during the last few minutes of your shower. You can have 10 seconds of warm water and 10 seconds of cold water, for example. This can decrease stress and wake you up a bit more.[13]
    • Use an aromatic body wash or scrub in a scent you like such as lemongrass, lavender, or black pepper. The scent can help further refresh you.[14]
    • Conserve water by brushing your teeth as a part of your shower.[15]
  5. 5Apply care products. Once you’ve dried your skin completely, apply any skincare you use as well as deodorant. Lotion or other skincare items can keep your skin soft and smelling nicely throughout the day. Deodorant also helps keep you smelling fresh so that others want to be around you.
    • Warm any lotions or moisturizers between your fingers or hands before you put them on your body. Not only does this feel better than cold lotion, but it may also absorb more quickly.
  6. 6Get dressed. As the last part of your morning routine to get ready for the day, put on your clothes. If you’ve set out your clothes the night before, you will save time and can minimize the risk that you are late because you don’t know what to wear.[16]
    • Release wrinkles if necessary by hanging your clothes in the bathroom while you shower.
    • Make sure you have a cardigan or light jacket with you in case it is chilly outdoors—or indoors.
  7. 7Take any items you need for the day. If you are going to school or work, make sure to take anything you need for the day such as your lunch, laptop or phone. If you get them ready the night before, you will save time. Keep a list in a place you can see so that you know exactly what you have to take each day. You might also make the list on your phone.
    • Gather your stuff the night before so you don’t have any undue stress or forget something.
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Part2Boosting Your Morning Happiness

  1. 1Enjoy “me” time before work or school. Depending on your schedule and family structure, you may be able to squeeze in a few minutes to yourself. You can use this to go to a local coffee shop or take a quick walk. This can reduce your stress and get your work or school day started off on the right foot. [17]
    • Use your “me” time to do something you love such as reading the paper, catching up on social media, or just being in a quiet space. You could even squeeze in 30 minutes of exercise, which will produce chemicals called endorphins that can boost your mood throughout the day.[18]
  2. 2Do something nice for another person. Doing something nice for another person, such as giving them a small gift like a cup of coffee, can make you happy and help you stay healthy. [19] Once you’ve had a chance to settle in at school or work, consider doing something small and kind for another person to keep your good feelings going all morning.
    • Remember you don’t have to do anything grand. Getting a cup of tea or coffee for a friend or colleague who is struggling or offering a compliment can go a long way in making the other person—and you—feel great.[20]
  3. 3Keep yourself energized with a snack and water. You might find that your energy and mood begin to flag as lunch gets closer. Have a mid-morning snack to keep yourself energized and happy. In addition, try and drink about 8 ounces of water every hour you’re at work or school to stay hydrated, which can also keep you alert.[21] Opt for nutritious snacks such as:
    • Almonds
    • Fresh or dried fruit
    • String cheese
    • Cottage cheese
    • Cut veggies and hummus
    • Boiled egg
    • Yogurt
    • Apples and peanut butter
  4. 4Take a 10-minute break. Allow yourself to take a break at some point during the morning. Breaks promote relaxation and can refresh your body and mind. They can also help reduce anxiety and stress.[22]
    • Do something you enjoy during your break. You could lay your head down for a few minutes, eat a snack, or go for a short walk. In fact, a short walk helps circulate your blood and push oxygen to your brain. It also lets your mind wander, and helps you relax.

Part3Setting Up for a Good Morning the Night Before

  1. 1Get your gear for the next day ready. Gather anything you might need the next day. Knowing where everything is can help you have a stress-free and good morning.[23]
    • Iron and set out your clothing. Consider having a back up option in case you don’t like your choice the next morning.
    • Set out breakfast items and get the coffee maker ready. Pack your lunch and any snacks you want.
    • Make sure anything else you want to take, such as a laptop or books, is in one place so that you can pick it up and leave.
  2. 2Set a cozy bedroom atmosphere. The key to starting off the morning right is a good night’s sleep. Creating a comfortable and cozy room helps you sleep throughout the night.[24]
    • Check to make sure the temperature in your bedroom is between 60-75 degrees, which is the optimal temperature range for sleeping. Consider opening a window or using a fan to circulate air.[25]
    • Remove or turn off electronics because they can stimulate your brain and cause stress.[26]
    • Block out any sources of light. If you need a nightlight, consider a not very bright white night light.[27] If you are able to sleep with minor light, consider leaving curtains and blinds halfway open. As the sun rises, it will signal your brain to wake up.[28]
  3. 3Switch into bedtime mode before bed. A long day at school or work can wear you out a lot. Most people need time to relax and wind down after a hard day down before going to sleep. Take at least an hour before your set bedtime to start winding down, which can help you fall asleep more easily. [29]
    • Avoid or limit use of electronics or devices. They can stimulate your brain, which makes it difficult to relax and fall asleep.[30] Dim the lights in your home to signal your brain and body it’s time to sleep.[31]
  4. 4Stick to a fixed bedtime. Go to bed at about the same time every night if you can. Sticking to the same bedtime can regulate your body clock, or circadian rhythms. It can also promote more restful sleep, which may help you have a good morning.[32]
    • Set your bedtime so that you have a solid 7-9 hours of sleep. Remember to account for any time you need to wind down and switch into bedtime mode. For example, if you need to be up at 7, you should be in bed no later than midnight.

I Can’t Get Enough Of This Pork

Easy Peasy!!! Simply sprinkle salt and pepper on the pork Loin.

Drizzle syrup and honey over the top.

Wrap about 8 slices of bacon around the loin.

Drizzle with brown sugar baste (brown sugar and water, making a paste)

Cover with tin foil for 1 hour at 350.

Uncover and scoop the juices over the meat.

Cook for another hour, this time uncovered.

Now slice as if it was a loaf of bread and enjoy.

Can be eaten as a “slider” on Hawaiin sweet rolls or with a good side. I made cabbage tonight with mine.

DID YOU KNOW?

How to Know If You’re In a Toxic Relationship

The signs you’re in a toxic relationship can be difficult to identify — here’s how.toxic relationship signs

Any relationship, be it romantic or otherwise, can be complicated. Whether it’s the relationship you have with your pushy mother-in-law, a childhood friend, or a spouse, interpersonal connections can be as challenging as they are rewarding. But a toxic relationship — one that is emotionally, and in extreme cases, physically damaging — is not complicated: it’s abusive. And learning the signs of a toxic relationship can help ensure that your relationships are healthy, sustainable, and mutually beneficial.

“A toxic relationship includes many factors,” Dr. Pavini Moray, a sex educator and founder of Wellcelium, a sex and intimacy school, tells Woman’s Day. “The main gauge, though, is how you feel the majority of the time.” If, for the most part, you feel supported, loved, and generally happy, an occasional spat or heated disagreement doesn’t mean you’re necessarily in a toxic relationship. “Toxic relationships detract from the quality of your life, rather than add to it,” Moray says. And while that could mean different things to different people and depending on their unique relationship, there are certain red flags everyone should look out for.

If you identify with any of the below, it could point to some toxicity in your relationship. But Moray says that all is not lost should you find yourself in this situation. “There is no cookie-cutter answer,” Moray explains. “Some couples can get support, can really get into the work of relational repair, and pull through.” So don’t let the below list scare you. See it more as step one in your healing — whether it’s with your partner, a friend, a parent, or on your own.

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“Toxic relationships detract from the quality of your life, rather than add to it,” Dr. Pavini Moray, a sex educator and founder of Wellcelium,

An absence of mutual care and support.

While it’s unrealistic to expect to feel happy every second of your relationship, the contentment, support, and shared joy should be more prevalent than not. “You may experience a dullness or a lack of pleasurable sensation when in a toxic relationship,” Moray says. “You may also feel afraid or unworthy, especially if your partner speaks in a derogatory, critical, or consistently blaming manner.” One of the reasons why people enter relationships is to meet their need for belonging, safety, and connection, and that need should be met on a consistent basis. “A relationship that is without the positive benefits of a quality connection like care and joy alongside negative impact means the costs of the relationship are outweighing the benefits,” Moray says. “Your needs are not being met.”

An ongoing lack of effective communication.

Learning how to effectively communicate with the people in your life can be challenging, to be sure. And every once in a while, you’ll have a day where every little thing your partner, parent, or friend says sends you into a rage. But if you’re finding you can’t talk to your loved ones without arguing, it might point to a deeper issue. “If you or your partner is feeling rageful or belittled much of the time, something is wrong,” Moray says. “While conflict is a natural part of relationships, the way you do conflict matters a lot.” The key is to be able to work through difficult subjects without lashing out at one another. If that seems to be lacking, your relationship may not be thriving.

There’s relationship imbalance.

In a healthy relationship, there is a balance of support. Sometimes you have to support your partner, and other times they need to support you. If that balance is out of whack, though, Moray says something more seriously could be up. “Both of you need to feel your needs are important to the relationship, and that you are on the same team,” Moray explains. “If you find you are consistently giving in to your partner’s desires, eventually the imbalance will result in resentment from the partner who is over-giving.” Balance in a relationship doesn’t just apply to big, potentially life-changing decisions, like where you’ll live or whether you’ll have children. It applies to smaller, daily decisions too, like if your partner always chooses the restaurant or whose family you visit for the holidays.

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If you’re constantly giving while your partner is constantly taking, your relationship could be toxic.

There’s a lack of mutual consent.

While the other signs that have been previously discussed can be chalked up to lack of respect, Moray classifies how consent is or isn’t happening in your connection as a form of abuse. If you’re doing things you really don’t want to do, or are coerced to go beyond your own boundaries — whether they are financial, physical, sexual, or emotional — it’s a sure-fire sign of toxicity. “Healthy relationships are based on a foundation of consent,” Moray says. “Everyone in the relationship agrees to be in the relationship. If you ever feel like you cannot leave the relationship, for any reason, it’s a good idea to consider whether this relationship is in your best interest.”